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Palm Springs Wedding?

Wednesday 16 July 2008 - Filed under General + Homes

robert and ramona's wedding

When Justin’s dad got married last year, it was the most Grown Up wedding I’ve seen in real life. My father-in-law-to-be and his wife, Robert and Ramona, aren’t life-of-leisure, rolling-around-in-bills, throw-your-money-in-the-fireplace rich or anything. They held their evening, open-bar wedding with about 200 guests at the Governor hotel downtown, and a month before the wedding, we all got an email from the hotel notifying us that we had a room reserved and pre-paid. Even though a lot of people, like me, live about 10 minutes away from the hotel. They requested no gifts, but if people wanted to do something in their name, they could donate to the American Diabetes Association. The whole thing was classy as shit. It’s a lot to live up to.

Justin and I got engaged after 14 years together, and 2 years later, we still don’t have any firm plans for a wedding. We move at our own pace. The thing is, we don’t see any reason to hurry up and do it if we’re not going to do it right, and have the kind of party we want to throw. An open bar is just a requirement, and if we’re doing that, you have to arrange for transportation, and then if you’re getting everyone limos, I don’t know, the planning always dissolves at that point when we start adding up the numbers. This is going to require some saving, and we’re going to try to pay for everything without going into any debt. My dad did offer to help, since, as he put it, this is my first wedding, but I’m in my 30s and I’ve payed my own way so far, and probably will keep it that way.

These are not firm plans or anything, so mom, don’t read this and think we’re getting close or anything, this is just an idea. What about, instead of a big wedding in town, we just pack up close friends and family, hop on a plane for a couple hours, and stay at a luxury rental house and have the whole thing there over a long weekend? Does that sound like party?

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2008-07-16  »  megan

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  1. Patricia
    16 July 2008 @ 8:13 am

    Ai yi yi, I had to read fast to get to the part that says this isn’t some kind of announcement. So yes, I’m available for an event of this nature. And I’m relieved to know that I didn’t guzzle so much wine when I saw you a mere twelve hours ago that I forgot all about your big plans. That wouldn’t be classy at all–unlike Robert’s and Ramona’s wedding, which was indeed gorgeous and I’m glad I got to go.

  2. nonlineargirl
    16 July 2008 @ 8:15 am

    (1) you should do that. we had our wedding at mt hood, so no one could get away. I mean, so no one had to drive.

    (2) I didn’t realize you’d been together so long. You have C and me beat – we were only together 8 years before we got married (9 years ago – so maybe we have you beat on that).

  3. Chris
    16 July 2008 @ 8:24 am

    I agree, a wedding without an open bar would be just very, very, sad.

  4. Shala
    16 July 2008 @ 10:42 am

    That sounds like an amazing wedding to me! The most important thing is to do the wedding the way you two want to. If someone can’t make it or doesn’t want to travel too far then that is their loss, not yours! If James and I could do it all over again we would do it so much different and would’ve had the wedding for US instead of for my mother.

  5. megan
    17 July 2008 @ 7:09 am

    Patricia – just an idea, it can still be a couple more years, we haven’t actually saved any money for it, so don’t get too excited yet
    Nonlineargirl – Yeah, I think you guys have one more year on us, we started dating in 1992. Chris – I would refuse to attend.
    Shala – I’m pretty lucky my family doesn’t put any pressure on us. I think it’s all the years we’ve waited, we’re kind of old hat. The in-laws are much more excited about his younger brother “getting serious” with his girlfriend, so I think they’ll get all the pressure, and we’ll be under the radar. :)

  6. Crissy
    17 July 2008 @ 8:48 am

    We were engaged for 7 years before we even set a date, so don’t worry.